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Asian Men and "Other" Women of Color?
























































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"I am an Asian- American, and I've always felt insecure about approaching women from different cultures. Though I'm always interested, I fear the rejection because most women find asian males generally unattractive"--Ryuken

 

"Hey, I am fully Asian (born in Hong Kong), and I love black women. I love their curves, and most of all I love that they got "flava". Having dated all kinds of girls (Asian, Latina, White), I am still in the "hunt" for a black girl. I think the thing with Asian guys is that they are intimidated by black girls (I know I am, a least a little bit). There is this black girl in my class that I am feeling some chemsitry with and I think this feeling is mutual, but I just don't know how to get at her because I feel that there is a certain cultural gap between us. To answer your question, I feel the most "right" with Asian girls, but I think I am most physically attracted to black women, I must say that I like white girls the least because having dated so many of them, I feel that they are all pretty much the same"-Asiansensation

 

"I have always been pretty open about dating interracially. I grew up around a variety of cultures. I went to school with alot of refugee children from 7th-12th grade. I have always found Asian men's physical features very appealing, but this is not my sole attraction. I'm also very drawn their devotion to family and sense of hard work and responsibility" ----Elizabeth

 

 





( Interracial Relationships and Limiting )
 
Why do people limit themselves in Interracial dating and relationships? There is an invisible line that divides many people from going beyond other races to explore others. Noone talks about this issue, so it is seen as "non-existent"...when in fact it does exist. Most people will not admit it. Look at the data tables here on Interracial marriages...
 
Many Asian men complain that most women desire White and Black men for potential love interests. On the net message boards you can so easily find rants and raves of Asian men talking of how cocky White and Black men are...because they get all the women?  Sadly, there is some truth to it. Many White and Black men do have this cocky boastful attitude, especially now in the year 2004. Is the media helping this attitude? 
 
Yes its true the media is very racist and ignorant. Most people buy into its propaganda, and let it screw up their ways of thinking. The truth is...anyone who allows themselves to be influenced by it, should do some serious thinking.
IT is true that the media has throughout history portrayed Asian men in these categories:
The Martial Artist
The Sexless Geek: ie: (Breakfast at Tiffanys) (Sixteen Candles) (Charlie Chan)
The Evil Sinister Villain: Fu Man Chu etc...

Here is an excerpt taken from an article writeen by By Lakshmi Chaudhry from "Chemistry Isn't Colorblind"

"Hollywood reinforces this desire for assimilation by consistently pairing Asian women with Anglo men. While the very sexy Jet Li is not allowed to kiss Bridget Fonda in "Kiss of the Dragon," celluloid Asian babes can't wait to get their clothes off for the dashing white hero. In "Shanghai Knights," actress Fann Wong is matched up with Owen Wilson instead of Jackie Chan, who is conveniently cast as her brother. Hollywood's message is unmistakable: No women for the Asian guy."

"We're at the bottom of the pile, right along with black women," said the young Taiwanese-American, his face red with frustration. He was speaking out at a local dinner/discussion event titled "Mating and Dating in the Asian American Community." The rage among the men in that room was palpable as they spoke of a lifetime of sexual invisibility in a culture that constructs them as either effeminate or repulsive."

If this is true, then why are Asian men and Black women limiting themselves? Why not explore all options out there given to you?

 Are some Asian cultures most open minded?

I have heard many Black, Hispanic and Multi-Ethnic women who are open to interracial dating and relationships with Asian men say there are some who are more open than others. A few have said that East Asian men were more open to Interracial relationships than SouthEast Asian men....specifically they point out the most  receptive to them were Korean, Japanese and American born Chinese...despite stereotypes that they are normally prefer white skin above all other cultures. Many say that Asian Indians are the most unlikely to cross the racial lines to date interracially with anything other than White women. I have some close friends who live in Trinidad and who are of Indian, and Chinese background. They have lived in Trinidad all their lives and have seen lots of mixing between Indians on the island with other ethnic groups. My friend explained that in Trinidad there is so much mixing that the men and women are less likely to be with their "own kind".

Trinidad is not a very big island...but their interracial diversity in romantic relationships without limitations is an example that many in the United States should follow.

 

 

 

 
 
 
 





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You will see a pattern of Asian men griping about how "White men" take their women. Its almost the same syndrome Black men have about Black women and White men. Black men back in the 20s and 30s were told to stay far away from White women. Some Black men came to the point of obsession, because they were beaten, killed and humiliated for just looking at a White female. Asian men on the other hand...have had similar experiences, yet in some ways its fascinating the way many feel that interracial relationships mean "White women" to them. Are their options limited? Or are they simply "puposely" limiting their options?
 
 
 
 

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